There was a point in time where I almost didn’t feel I had a choice in who I was friends with. If someone was willing to be my friend, I was going to take it, no matter what it entailed. The wider your community and the greater your sense of self-worth become, this mindset begins … [Read more…]
As I’ve navigated and observed my relationships with other women, there are countless roles I’ve witnessed women take on in social groups. There’s one in particular that I’ve noticed at every stage of my life that I think speaks to a larger issue with female socialization than we even realize. We all know that girl … [Read more…]
My latest post dealt with the necessity of acknowledging that girls bully and the significance of labeling these behaviors as such. But now I’m going to shift gears and contradict that notion; we need to find a new term for “girl bullying.” It’s a term I often use when giving the elevator pitch for my … [Read more…]
Since the beginning of my own experience with girl bullying in middle school, it has always struck me how few people have even heard of this as a specific issue. But what baffles me more is the amount of men and women I’ve encountered who seem to refuse to deem this as “bullying.” Too often … [Read more…]
At first, I almost found it flattering. The feminist in me cursed that thought and hid it from the world, knowing the correct response was to be filled with rage. But it lifted my ego on the walk to school, and I didn’t mind. Then you caught me on a bad day. My mind was … [Read more…]
Why do we as women so often struggle to accept compliments? It’s a habit I’ve witnessed time and time again not only in others, but also in myself. When someone compliments my clothes, I don’t hesitate to let out an enthusiastic thank you and share where I bought it. But when someone compliments me – … [Read more…]
Being the only daughter in my family, I’ve been afforded a unique perspective of how girls and boys are raised differently. And mind you, my parents are quite liberal in the grand scheme of parenting; yet this only further solidifies for me how hidden and subtle this habit really is. It reveals itself in unconscious … [Read more…]