Having distance from my experiences with girl bullying and a stronger sense of who I am has allowed me to revisit these memories with clarity, rather than emotion. However, I’m reminded every day of the impact those girls had on how I view and approach relationships; I often feel desperate when making plans with friends … [Read more…]
Many of my posts cater to providing advice for victims of girl bullying, or the parents of victims. But I feel it’s just as important to address the bully. Often times, it can be much harder for a parent to acknowledge their daughter is causing such pain and drama. It’s crucial to recognize that there … [Read more…]
Why do we as women so often struggle to accept compliments? It’s a habit I’ve witnessed time and time again not only in others, but also in myself. When someone compliments my clothes, I don’t hesitate to let out an enthusiastic thank you and share where I bought it. But when someone compliments me – … [Read more…]
I have always taken issue with the term “best friends” – this initially stemmed from the fact that I myself did not have a true best friend until the end of high school. But even after claiming the experience myself, I consider the implications and expectations of that expression to be ultimately detrimental to how … [Read more…]
At age 15, this storm brewing inside me is given a name: depression. Welcome to the world – my world that I’m now forced to share with you. But I’m too happy to be depressed? Life has been too good to me for me to just turn around and bury its gifts under a pile … [Read more…]
You’re in a small pond • These are the friends you have access to right now. Finding the right friends is heavily contingent on finding the right environment. College, your career, even a club will open opportunities to meet “your people.” The best revenge is your future success • It may seem easiest to sit … [Read more…]
Being the only daughter in my family, I’ve been afforded a unique perspective of how girls and boys are raised differently. And mind you, my parents are quite liberal in the grand scheme of parenting; yet this only further solidifies for me how hidden and subtle this habit really is. It reveals itself in unconscious … [Read more…]
Growing up, I was a spunky, creative spirit, involved in music and dance for as long as I can remember. But in 8th grade, at the height of my bullied years, I pulled away. I started the school year and immediately decided not to return to jazz choir, nor audition for the musical. I didn’t … [Read more…]